Most couples disagree about the same things: money, sex, children, time. The success of a long-term relationship is based on chemistry, similar values and beliefs, and how you overcome differences. You are the one who creates the compatibility.

The Matchmakers team at Fábrica de Parejas affirms that, after one or two years of relationship, and eliminating the rush of love hormones, what keeps a couple together is the set of similar values and beliefs.

When you meet a new person, you are usually on your best behavior, so getting to know someone’s true values and beliefs takes at least 6 months.

The Matchmakers, analyzing this situation, recommend asking two questions to analyze the potential partner in the first moments of a relationship:

1. What are your core values?

Seeing how the person treats friends, relatives, co-workers and service people speaks about the respect they have for themselves and others. Likewise, discovering whether that person is attentive, kind and affectionate speaks about their interpersonal relationships. How that person treats a dog or a restaurant waiter is how he or she will treat you.

2. What do their actions say?

A person can say anything, but his actions will reveal the real person. If he tells you that she is the only person in his life but spends more time with his friends, his actions are revealing the truth.

Experts recommend not rushing into a relationship if you are not 100% convinced. So the Couples Factory Matchmakers share with us the four most common mistakes that should be avoided before saying YES to a relationship.

3. Choose with hormones

When someone “falls madly in love” they make decisions based on what they feel at that moment, and not if that partner suits them in the long term. If you’re about to commit to someone because he feels “something magnetic… a magical feeling he can’t describe,” your hormones are talking to you, not your brain.

4. Choose people in need

When you attract a person who says that she needs you, that she can’t go through life alone without you. Careful! In the end, these types of situations end up overwhelming, and they will look for another person. On the contrary, if d is the one in need, because he has just suffered a breakup, divorce or separation, it is time to stop and live a period of mourning. Next, find someone who wants to be with you, not someone who needs you.

5. Be conformist

When a person spends his time trying to avoid confronting his partner to improve the relationship, he is being conformist. It is a passive state where both people remain static, without change, without evolution. The bravest and most nonconformist people will take the step, they will leave that relationship that gives them almost no satisfaction. However, there will be others who will stay there for fear of change.

6. Choose a partner who you think you can change

Trying to change someone is an impossible task. Only a person can change when said change originates from within and they are convinced that it will be for their good. Couples commonly make this mistake because they expect their loved one to change to satisfy their desires. These types of relationships tend to fail.